You need to provide all of your widows with a printed list of masons who would be willing to help her, with tasks. If the yard needs mowing, the car breaks down,etc. You can get plastic refrigerator magnets from
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Our lodge prepares fruit and gift baskets for all of our widows, and deliver them at Christmastime.
We have an annual widow's dance (and appreciation night) every year at the lodge hall. We serve a dinner, and arrange transportation for all of the widows who cannot drive themselves. We have some widowers in our lodge, and sometimes they start up a romance!
We also help the widows dispose of masonic jewelry (In case the deceased mason has no masonic relatives). We arrange a sale at a decent price, and deliver the proceeds to the widow.