BigGameJames
Member
So I just got off phone with my friend. His Mom passed away this mooring.
My Freinds Mom
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Bob Franks
Past District Deputy Grand Lecturer
That is sad for your friend.
I hope that you will be able to available to him for comfort and support.
I hope that you will be able to available to him for comfort and support.
BigGameJames
Member
I will just as he give me support last year. When my grandma died.
Bob Franks
Past District Deputy Grand Lecturer
We are like the pine trees is a dense forest in a strong storm.
Sometimes we lean on our friends, sometimes they must lean on us.
A single pine will blow down in much less wind.
Sometimes we lean on our friends, sometimes they must lean on us.
A single pine will blow down in much less wind.
Duncan1574
Lodge Chaplain & arms dealer
Nicely put Brother Bob
BigGameJames
Member
I just got done talking to my friend. He is really down in dumps right now. I know that feeling I wish there was something can stay to make him feel better but I don't know if can.
Bob Franks
Past District Deputy Grand Lecturer
Just being there is sometimes all you can do.
BigGameJames
Member
My mom said I should go to Funeral. But I really don't want to do, I really don't care for Funerals I only go to close family members our Friends. Not there family will that make me a bad friend if I don't go? I never been any other funerals of his and he never to any mine. We never ask each other to go if we were to go to one mine without me asking him then I would have to return favor.
Windrider
Plus-sized tuxedo model
Funerals are not for the dead. They are for the living. If you wish to show your support to the family of the deceased, by all means go to the funeral. Sometimes being a man means doing things that you don't enjoy for the benefit of others. A Mason does these things and more with the greatest respect for the deceased and the surviving family. A Mason does these things not to put a family in his debt or to "return a favor" but because it is the right thing to do. Grief shared is grief lightened and the simple act of showing up, kneeling in prayer and sincerely offering your support to the family is a gift to everyone involved.
BigGameJames
Member
Funerals make me uncomfortable I have been many of the years. I show my supporter in other ways my friend know I'm here for him.
BigGameJames
Member
My friend can't afford to burry her and can't give her nice funeral ether. There are some people helping him not some of his family do its is not helping much. I know how it feels last year I lost my grandma it was mouth before my birthday.
BigGameJames
Member
I have talked to my friend told him I fell he understand. I told him that I'm there for him to talk to.
Windrider
Plus-sized tuxedo model
James, One of the many responsibilities of a Mason is to whisper counsel in a brother's ear when he is about to make a mistake. Brothers keep one another safe from danger and advise them when they see something that would prevent harm to them or those around them.
Many of us, even though you are not a Mason, have tried to whisper counsel in your ear. We have put up with your horrible grammar and spelling. Which improved briefly but has now reverted to incomprehensible. We tried to gently tell you that being a man and a friend sometimes means doing things that make you uncomfortable. You made excuses to avoid going to the funeral. You may have had a talk with your friend and he has been gracious enough to let you off the hook but I can assure you things would have been much better if you had made the effort to attend the funeral.
I can assure you that there are parts of being a good man and a Mason that will not be comfortable or convenient for you. A good man always places the needs of others before himself. We make good men better. This means that those who are accepted into our ranks are already good men and can show this through their actions and words. Their character must be testified to by multiple references. Their reputation known to be of high standards.
The degrees of Masonry take the candidate through the entire cycle of life. We are reminded we are mortal and that death is part of life. If you are accepted and elected to receive the degrees you will experience things that you have never been faced with and will have the opportunity to refuse. If you do refuse to comply with any part of your initiation, you will be escorted out of the lodge and asked to only return when you are ready. Life and Masonry do not revolve around you.
I am disappointed in you. I had hoped that you were here to grow and with our help, become a man. I see that you are only here to pass the time and get attention. You are behaving as a child and children are not qualified to become Masons. Your disability is a challenge given you by God. It is up to you to rise above it and become the good man we all want you to be.
If your replies to this are childish, I will simply block you. I'm sure I'm not the only one here who's patience has run out. Consider any reply you make to this or any other post carefully and realize that you are in the company of men.
Many of us, even though you are not a Mason, have tried to whisper counsel in your ear. We have put up with your horrible grammar and spelling. Which improved briefly but has now reverted to incomprehensible. We tried to gently tell you that being a man and a friend sometimes means doing things that make you uncomfortable. You made excuses to avoid going to the funeral. You may have had a talk with your friend and he has been gracious enough to let you off the hook but I can assure you things would have been much better if you had made the effort to attend the funeral.
I can assure you that there are parts of being a good man and a Mason that will not be comfortable or convenient for you. A good man always places the needs of others before himself. We make good men better. This means that those who are accepted into our ranks are already good men and can show this through their actions and words. Their character must be testified to by multiple references. Their reputation known to be of high standards.
The degrees of Masonry take the candidate through the entire cycle of life. We are reminded we are mortal and that death is part of life. If you are accepted and elected to receive the degrees you will experience things that you have never been faced with and will have the opportunity to refuse. If you do refuse to comply with any part of your initiation, you will be escorted out of the lodge and asked to only return when you are ready. Life and Masonry do not revolve around you.
I am disappointed in you. I had hoped that you were here to grow and with our help, become a man. I see that you are only here to pass the time and get attention. You are behaving as a child and children are not qualified to become Masons. Your disability is a challenge given you by God. It is up to you to rise above it and become the good man we all want you to be.
If your replies to this are childish, I will simply block you. I'm sure I'm not the only one here who's patience has run out. Consider any reply you make to this or any other post carefully and realize that you are in the company of men.
BigGameJames
Member
Maybe I should Go he would go to my mom funeral. I have thought about this a lot even do he said I don't have go it would make him happy if did. I'm going to go I just called my friend and let him know that ill be there.
Bob Franks
Past District Deputy Grand Lecturer
My friend, I am not comfortable at funeral either. I do NOT go to the coffin.
But I do go when I know that I need to be there to support the bereaved family of the the deceased.
It would be the right thing to do. You will know in your heart that it was.
But I do go when I know that I need to be there to support the bereaved family of the the deceased.
It would be the right thing to do. You will know in your heart that it was.
Duncan1574
Lodge Chaplain & arms dealer
At funerals I visit the deceased, lately many are being cremated and there isn't a 'viewing' anyway. Pictures boards, photos, etc and common in Wisconsin. But if there is a coffin (open/closed) I stop and say a prayer for the departed. It is my preference, your mileage may vary.
Now it might be the professions that I am part of, being a minister & my wife is a florist so we see many funerals each year.
Now it might be the professions that I am part of, being a minister & my wife is a florist so we see many funerals each year.
BigGameJames
Member
My Friend is like brother to me .We've been friends for 22 years. He has always has my back and helped out with anything I needed help on, And was always there if I needed advice or just someone to talk to. I don't want you guys get wrong idea, that I didn't want to go not support him, I've been to so many funerals over the years. The last one I went to was my grandma's, last year. I got kinda brunt out on going them was getting tired of people dying on me. I lost both my grandpas, my uncle, one of my friends, my great ant, my Aunt's ex-husband, he killed, himself after he got married to my Aunt, and then my grandma. Ya, I lost all those people though the years and I was hoping not to go anther for while. That's why I didn't want to go, not because I didn't want to be there for him. I just got tired of going to them.
But after doing some thinking, I realized that the right thing to do is to show up, he would do same thing for me if my mom died.
But after doing some thinking, I realized that the right thing to do is to show up, he would do same thing for me if my mom died.
BigGameJames
Member
Tomorrow is the funereal. Ill I'm going to leave. Around 10.