There is a great deal of prescience and truth in your posting. I am a "boomer", and I was never a hippie (It has been a long time since I heard that term). Men have all kinds of outlets for their free time, much more than even 50 years ago. Joining clubs and groups, is old hat, and near obsolete. I have no children, but I have seen the phenomena of which you speak, with kids withdrawing from human society, and socializing only electronically.
And you are "spot-on" about your observations on how Freemasonry is "marketed". Basically, it isn't marketed at all.
I am 1000% in agreement, that retention is a serious problem. In some areas, lodges are losing more members to suspensions, non-payment, and demits/resignations, than they are in deaths! This should be a wake-up call to all lodges.
We are in agreement, that if Masonic membership provides "value" ( however you define it), then participation and attendance with increase.
I am in agreement with you, that most stated meetings are B-O-R-I-N-G. Open, read the sick list, pay the bills, close gohome. No surprise that masonic meetings are sparsely attended.
We should refer the routine business items to executive committee. The WM and secretary,etc should have authority to pay all bills under $500. The lodge minutes should be published on the lodge web page, and then the next meeting can amend/correct the minutes as needed.
Lodge meetings should be "show business" not club business.